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23 08, 2023

Are you Controlling Or Creating?

By Clayton Olson|2023-08-25T06:43:53+00:00August 23rd, 2023|

Are you CREATING or CONTROLLING in your life and relationships? Controlling is...Trying to prevent something bad from happening (that might be a feeling or feared outcome)Using consequence to influence rather than inspirationAction born from fearBeing outcome dependentReactiveA contracted stanceOperating from shoulds, ought to's, or have to'sCreating is...Action based on what you want, not what you don't wantInfluencing others with inspiration rather than a consequenceAction born from love, desire, and playEnjoying the processIntentional & ResponsiveAn expansive stanceOperating from "I would love..., [...]

23 01, 2023

Free Your Future From Your Past…

By Clayton Olson|2023-08-25T06:57:02+00:00January 23rd, 2023|

Do you find yourself in the same relational dysfunction again and again? Having the same type of conflict with your intimate partner, maybe your friends or in the workplace... Attracting the same type of unwanted experiences in your dating life. It can be very easy to feel like a victim of these experiences. Like life is continually dealing you a bad hand until you get the "lesson". To transcend this and create a new future reality where this [...]

13 01, 2023

Break Free From Your Self-Imposed Prison

By Clayton Olson|2023-08-23T08:03:28+00:00January 13th, 2023|

Are you feeling stuck in a relationship or career that's no longer fulfilling? It's a common experience to feel trapped and unsure how to be ourselves in these situations. We may start to see what was once exciting as stagnant and wonder what went wrong. Many people respond to this feeling by looking for an escape. They may think about leaving their relationship or quitting their job or selling their business. While these can [...]

3 01, 2023

The Real Prize of Goal-Setting

By Clayton Olson|2023-08-25T07:01:33+00:00January 3rd, 2023|

It's that time of year again where we all set big, lofty goals for ourselves...But let's be real - how often do we actually stick to them? It's not that we don't want to, but often times, the journey towards our goals can be discouraging and filled with anxiety or pressure. I know this firsthand with my own client, who had a goal to start her own business. She was so focused on the end result - [...]

29 11, 2022

The Wisdom Of The Valley

By Clayton Olson|2023-08-25T07:14:14+00:00November 29th, 2022|

If you look back at your life, can you see the peaks? Maybe some fulfilled desires or goals were achieved. Can you see the valleys just as clearly? The moments of cloud cover, confusion, and forced rest. If you're a high performer - somebody who's used to creating results in your life through action, discipline, and consistency - you're used to the peaks. Perhaps peak after peak is the most comfortable pace for you. There are goals to [...]

15 11, 2022

This Question Puts The Power Back In Your Lap

By Clayton Olson|2023-08-25T06:34:27+00:00November 15th, 2022|

Cycles of change...the seasons, human development, planetary shifts. When we look at these cycles with curiosity we naturally ask “how?” How do the seasons change?How do humans develop?How does the planet shift? The most empowering way we can look at ourselves and our experiences is to ask “how?” Circumstances in our lives, be they negative or positive, deserves fair inquiry. When you jump to the question of “why” you move out of fair inquiry. “Why is this happening to me?”Or “why [...]

12 10, 2022

Powerful Results Come Through Powerful Awareness

By Clayton Olson|2023-08-25T06:38:59+00:00October 12th, 2022|

Imagine something you’ve wanted for a while...Okay, now slow down and ask yourself this question:What might you lose that you value when you finally get this thing that you want? ... At first glance, you may say, "Nothing!" But then we must ask, "Why don't you have it yet?" Why don't you have this thing you want? We stay in this position of wanting something but not actually getting it because of something called 2nd Order Consequences. 2nd Order Consequences are the unknown problems that [...]

19 08, 2022

Stop Telling Yourself This Lie…

By Clayton Olson|2023-08-23T08:26:32+00:00August 19th, 2022|

I have found there are five words we have all likely spoken at one time or another to ourselves, usually after having experienced something painful or doing something we regret. These five words are: "I should have known better." These words may seem innocent (and accurate) enough on the surface, but really, the only purpose they serve is a way to beat yourself up. Maybe you’re going through a job loss or a breakup and you’re [...]

3 08, 2022

Get Unstuck with THIS Question

By Clayton Olson|2023-08-25T06:18:58+00:00August 3rd, 2022|

Did you know that there are two questions that can instantly steal your power without you even knowing it? Asking either of these questions gives your inner authority away to someone else. What are these two disempowering questions? They are: "What should I do?""What's the right thing to do in this situation?" How many times have you found yourself in a difficult circumstance and found yourself asking these on repeat. Asking either of these questions assumes that there [...]

22 07, 2022

How To Let Go, Move On, & Heal After Heartbreak

By Clayton Olson|2023-08-25T06:30:22+00:00July 22nd, 2022|

Sometimes, it's easy to get overwhelmed in our world as adult humans. There’s work, relationships, bills, pets, and kids to deal with as well as a laundry list of other demands to constantly contend with. It can be easy to forget that there are parts of our psyche still operating from a childlike perspective, and in fact, sometimes running the show. One of these parts of ourselves is the part of us that actually falls in love. [...]

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