Over the last decade of working with clients, helping them create more empowered lives and secure connections, I have seen some themes show up on repeat. Themes that don’t serve their highest good or the relationship they seek to create. At the heart of so many struggles I’ve seen in my clients’ relationships is the idea of anxiety and insecurity, which tend to trip them up and keep them stuck in this negative loop they have a [...]
Have you ever noticed that the people you desire are indifferent to you, while the people you don’t care about are crazy about you? You’re not alone. It’s frustrating to feel like the person you’re crushing on couldn't care less about you, while the other one who you haven’t given the time of day is completely in love with you. This is actually a phenomenon that I’m going to help you get to the root [...]
Have you ever heard of bread-crumbing? In this blog I’m going to define this phenomena, why it might be happening, and give you a strategy to help you get your power back. What is bread-crumbing? I suspect many women have found themselves in this situation at one point or another: you meet someone who seems great, you hit if off, and maybe you go out a few times, but for some reason unbeknownst to you, [...]
We often talk about addiction in negative terms—alcohol, drug, sex, even video games, hours spent on the couch trying to conquer Fortnite. But is an addiction to love a bad thing? When you make him addicted to you, you make him love you, you make him want you, and you make him think about you all the time. In the beginning, this can feel like it’ll set a strong foundation for a flourishing union. And [...]
Abandonment issues are an unwelcome third wheel that appear in many relationships. And they’re the kind of third wheel that never spices things up. Rather, the fear of abandonment can doom a union before it really even begins. This is because abandonment issues play a role in the types of men you choose. When you let them dictate the way, you end up choosing the wrong guy, over and over again. So, exactly how do [...]
If you’ve been at all in the dating world, you’ve probably found yourself in a familiar situation: falling for a guy you really like and wondering why he’s not reciprocating. Is it something you said? Something you didn’t say? What is the reason men pull away? Now, there could be a million reasons (or more!). Men, like women, are all individuals with their own baggage. Is he pulling away because of a vibe [...]
Over the last decade I’ve spent working with clients who are suffering from a breakup or divorce, certain patterns seem to show up on repeat. What I’ve seen happen again and again is people succumbing to a common myth. Perhaps you’ve heard of it. It’s the myth of compromise. It’s the idea that every love relationship requires each partner to make compromises for the sake of the relationship. At first glance, this seems like a [...]
No offense to Gary Chapman or the important book he penned, but he might have dropped the ball by stopping at five love languages. In our adult world filled with deadlines, stress and responsibility, it's so important to find the time to play, and when you can bring this into relationship, you become irresistible. In the world of dating, it can be so easy to get wrapped up in this idea of finding the "one"—making [...]
Self-love is something so many of us struggle with. It’s a real challenge to be accepting of all parts of yourself, I know. But I want to share something that might help. It’s a groundbreaking and somewhat counter-intuitive method for learning how to love yourself, fully and completely. I’m not going to say that this is all you need in order to heal all, but I do believe that it’s a powerful starting point for [...]
If I ask you, “how do you build a relationship that’s healthy and deeply intimate?” what would you answer? You might say that you need to do things like have romantic dinners and deep conversations, spend lots of quality time together getting to know each other’s inner workings. While those are all valid suggestions and might indeed lead to greater intimacy, I invite you to entertain the idea that it’s equally important to be missed [...]