If you’ve been in a relationship for a while, sometimes what you come up against is a sense of staleness or a lack of newness in the relationship. What you appreciated in the beginning about your partner you may start taking for granted.You might forget to appreciate or even see the gifts that your partner is bringing to the table as the relationship goes into the longer term. As time goes on, these blindspots may [...]
Over the last several months, my business partner and I have been working with a community of women in a program we developed called, “Becoming the One”. The sole focus of this program is to help single women adjust their perspectives—about relationships, themselves, and myths they’ve been told— so that they can come into a mindset that not just embraces where they are in life, but also opens the door to inviting love in, in [...]
It’s easy to see why dating gets a bad rap. Dating can be intimidating. It can be exhausting. It can be overwhelming if you’re unfamiliar with the latest dating app, or you’re simply not interested in “swiping right”. It might feel superficial and vacuous, or like it’s just a numbers game. Maybe you’re healing from a breakup, or you’re realizing it’s time to “get back out there”, but you have a certain level of resistance [...]
Over the last decade of working with clients, helping them create more empowered lives and secure connections, I have seen some themes show up on repeat. Themes that don’t serve their highest good or the relationship they seek to create. At the heart of so many struggles I’ve seen in my clients’ relationships is the idea of anxiety and insecurity, which tend to trip them up and keep them stuck in this negative loop they have a [...]
Have you ever noticed that the people you desire are indifferent to you, while the people you don’t care about are crazy about you? You’re not alone. It’s frustrating to feel like the person you’re crushing on couldn't care less about you, while the other one who you haven’t given the time of day is completely in love with you. This is actually a phenomenon that I’m going to help you get to the root [...]
Have you ever heard of bread-crumbing? In this blog I’m going to define this phenomena, why it might be happening, and give you a strategy to help you get your power back. What is bread-crumbing? I suspect many women have found themselves in this situation at one point or another: you meet someone who seems great, you hit if off, and maybe you go out a few times, but for some reason unbeknownst to you, [...]
We often talk about addiction in negative terms—alcohol, drug, sex, even video games, hours spent on the couch trying to conquer Fortnite. But is an addiction to love a bad thing? When you make him addicted to you, you make him love you, you make him want you, and you make him think about you all the time. In the beginning, this can feel like it’ll set a strong foundation for a flourishing union. And [...]
Has there ever been a time in your relationships where you said or did something that wasn’t in alignment with your integrity? The words you spoke to your partner that didn’t match with what you were really feeling, or the forced smile you gave while deep inside your stomach was in knots… If you have, then you know the pain of feeling like you're living a lie — and you’re tired of it. You might feel [...]
Over the last decade I’ve spent working with clients who are suffering from a breakup or divorce, certain patterns seem to show up on repeat. What I’ve seen happen again and again is people succumbing to a common myth. Perhaps you’ve heard of it. It’s the myth of compromise. It’s the idea that every love relationship requires each partner to make compromises for the sake of the relationship. At first glance, this seems like a [...]
No offense to Gary Chapman or the important book he penned, but he might have dropped the ball by stopping at five love languages. In our adult world filled with deadlines, stress and responsibility, it's so important to find the time to play, and when you can bring this into relationship, you become irresistible. In the world of dating, it can be so easy to get wrapped up in this idea of finding the "one"—making [...]