Do you find yourself in the same relational dysfunction again and again? Having the same type of conflict with your intimate partner, maybe your friends or in the workplace... Attracting the same type of unwanted experiences in your dating life. It can be very easy to feel like a victim of these experiences. Like life is continually dealing you a bad hand until you get the "lesson." To transcend this and create a new [...]
Are you feeling stuck in a relationship or career that's no longer fulfilling? It's a common experience to feel trapped and unsure how to be ourselves in these situations. We may start to see what was once exciting as stagnant and wonder what went wrong. Many people respond to this feeling by looking for an escape. They may think about leaving their relationship or quitting their job or selling their business. While these can [...]
I have found there are five words we have all likely spoken at one time or another to ourselves, usually after having experienced something painful or doing something we regret. These five words are: "I should have known better." These words may seem innocent (and accurate) enough on the surface, but really, the only purpose they serve is a way to beat yourself up. Maybe you’re going through a job loss or a breakup and [...]
Did you know that there are two questions that can instantly steal your power without you even knowing it? Asking either of these questions gives your inner authority away to someone else. What are these two disempowering questions? They are: "What should I do?" "What's the right thing to do in this situation?" How many times have you found yourself in a difficult circumstance and found yourself asking these on repeat Asking either of these [...]
Sometimes, it's easy to get overwhelmed in our world as adult humans. There’s work, relationships, bills, pets, and kids to deal with as well as a laundry list of other demands to constantly contend with. It can be easy to forget that there are parts of our psyche still operating from a childlike perspective, and in fact, sometimes running the show. One of these parts of ourselves is the part of us that actually falls [...]
Did you know that there are two questions that can instantly steal your power without you even knowing it? Asking either of these questions gives your inner authority away to someone else. What are these two disempowering questions? They are: "What should I do?" "What's the right thing to do in this situation?" How many times have you found yourself in a difficult circumstance and found yourself asking these on repeat? Asking either of these [...]
Do you ever feel like insecurity is sabotaging your connection with someone you love? In my now decade of coaching, here are some of the most common ways I've seen that create unnecessary insecurity in your life. 1. You're mistakenly thinking that relationship confidence comes from what you are DOING and/or 2. You think your confidence comes from what you HAVE... Both of these are brilliant strategies for remaining alone and insecure for the rest of your life. The [...]
I have found there are five words we have all likely spoken at one time or another to ourselves, usually after having experienced something painful or doing something we regret. These five words are: "I should have known better." These words may seem innocent (and accurate) enough on the surface, but really, the only purpose they serve is a way to beat yourself up. Maybe you’re going through a job loss or a breakup and you’re [...]
Meditation teacher and writer Jon Kabat-Zinn famously said, “wherever you go, there you are” and it couldn’t be more true in the context of achievement. Our culture applauds achievement, and sure, it feels good to have accomplishments under our belt. But the dark side of achievement is something we don’t often hear about, yet it’s very real. I consider myself a recovering over-achiever. In my 20s and early 30s, I was constantly setting goals, reaching [...]
Have you ever felt like you were taking risks and growing in life, only to have that small, unwanted voice creep in your head to say that you’re a fraud? Imposter syndrome is not anything most people enjoy feeling. I used to have that inner critic come out with its commentary anytime I’d take big steps in life, personally or professionally (in fact, I still do from time to time!) It used to make me [...]