Imagine something you’ve wanted for a while…
Okay, now slow down and ask yourself this question:
What might you lose that you value when you finally get this thing that you want?
At first glance, you may say, “Nothing!”
But then we must ask, “Why don't you have it yet?” Why don't you have this thing you want?
We stay in this position of wanting something but not actually getting it because of something called 2nd Order Consequences.
2nd Order Consequences are the unknown problems that arise from getting the thing you want.
For example, when you fully step into your power and authority, will it make sense to:
- stay in a relationship that requires you to play small?
- continue to stifle your voice around friends and family?
- remain status quo in your work when you know you're destined for bigger things?
Getting what you want actually threatens the harmony and relationships that were built on an old version of yourself.
You subconsciously create resistance when you're unaware that your family, friends, work, and relationship will be impacted by getting what you want.
Most people mistakenly experience this resistance as “self-sabotage.” However, what it really is is self-protection.
The resistance is designed to help us stay in the familiar and avoid the potential risks that come with growth. So, I'll ask you again…
What might you lose that you value when you finally get the thing that you want?
By becoming consciously aware of what may change or fall away as a result of getting what you want, you begin to dissolve the resistance that's been stopping you.
Over my time serving clients, it's become clear that while it's easy to know what you want, it can be challenging to see what's stopping you because you're just too close to it.
I would love to support you in creating the life and the version of yourself that's waiting for you.
Powerful results come from powerful awareness.
Let me know how this lands. I’d love to hear what’s real for you. Send me an email at clayt[email protected] and let me know your thoughts.
If you'd like to have a transformative conversation, drop me a line at that same email above and let's start the dialogue to see if we're a fit.
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