We often talk about addiction in negative terms—alcohol, drug, sex, even video games, hours spent on the couch trying to conquer Fortnite. But is an addiction to love a bad thing? When you make him addicted to you, you make him love you, you make him want you, and you make him think about you all the time. In the beginning, this can feel like it’ll set a strong foundation for a flourishing union. And [...]
If you’ve been at all in the dating world, you’ve probably found yourself in a familiar situation: falling for a guy you really like and wondering why he’s not reciprocating. Is it something you said? Something you didn’t say? What is the reason men pull away? Now, there could be a million reasons (or more!). Men, like women, are all individuals with their own baggage. Is he pulling away because of a vibe [...]
In my last blog post, “Your Words Create Your Reality - Part 1”, I spoke about a client who said, “I’m just anxious in relationships”. Through some simple inquiry and deconstruction of that statement, I illustrated how by shifting the language we use, we can create a new way of experiencing ourselves in relationship and release ourselves from our own self-created limitations. Today I’m going to introduce another way we can gain mastery over an [...]
Recently, I was working with a client who was experiencing some anxiety in a new relationship and they said, “I’m just an anxious person in a relationship.” That statement almost slipped by me. I mean, it very well could be true from their perspective, couldn’t it? However, as a coach, part of my role working with clients is to pay close attention to the language they use to create their experience. Because, oftentimes, how you [...]
If I ask you, “how do you build a relationship that’s healthy and deeply intimate?” what would you answer? You might say that you need to do things like have romantic dinners and deep conversations, spend lots of quality time together getting to know each other’s inner workings. While those are all valid suggestions and might indeed lead to greater intimacy, I invite you to entertain the idea that it’s equally important to be missed [...]
Sometimes, love hurts. In fact, rejection is part and parcel of dating and romance: it just goes with the territory. But not everyone knows how to let someone down easy. This often leads to ghosting, disappearing without explanation so that you don’t have to deal with the awful act of dumping someone. It might give you an out, but it also turns dating into a bit like the Wild West, where consideration for others takes [...]
When it comes to romance, it’s easy to get sucked into wondering what men want or how to be more attractive in their eyes. Women read fashion magazines, spend hours at the gym, join dating sites, solicit advice columns, and even seek therapy all in the name of discovering why they’re so unlucky in love. But the answer is simpler than you probably think. It might be more counterintuitive too. In order to [...]
The Art of Not Being a Hookup Imagine this scenario: You’ve been on a few dates with a dude and it’s all going well, it all feels very promising, and you are filled with hopeful anticipation. You share what you think is a pretty magical night together -- the chemistry is palpable and you are definitely vibing, and when you part ways in the morning you have no doubt it’s true when he says he’ll [...]
Ah, the wonderful world of dating. Wining, dining, and… toxicity? While it’s certainly not an item you want on the menu of your dinner for two, it happens more often than we’d like to admit. Abuse, gaslighting, manipulation—these are all obvious signs that you’re on a sinking boat; it’s time to pull anchor and abandon ship. Toxicity, in these forms, can be downright dangerous. But toxicity doesn’t always hit like a ton of bricks. [...]
So, your dating life isn’t going the way you expected. How do I know? You wouldn’t be reading this article if it was. It’s not just you: the sea is filled with tons of single fish. In fact, many people aren’t only single, but they’re also struggling with similar questions. Yep, they’re single and ready to mingle with some much-needed answers. One of the most common questions I get as a coach has to do [...]