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Insights on coming into rapport and alignment with who you are in this world

15 11, 2022

This Question Puts The Power Back In Your Lap

By Clayton Olson|2023-08-25T06:34:27+00:00November 15th, 2022|

Cycles of change...the seasons, human development, planetary shifts. When we look at these cycles with curiosity we naturally ask “how?” How do the seasons change?How do humans develop?How does the planet shift? The most empowering way we can look at ourselves and our experiences is to ask “how?” Circumstances in our lives, be they negative or positive, deserves fair inquiry. When you jump to the question of “why” you move out of fair inquiry. “Why is this happening to me?”Or “why [...]

12 10, 2022

Powerful Results Come Through Powerful Awareness

By Clayton Olson|2023-08-25T06:38:59+00:00October 12th, 2022|

Imagine something you’ve wanted for a while...Okay, now slow down and ask yourself this question:What might you lose that you value when you finally get this thing that you want? ... At first glance, you may say, "Nothing!" But then we must ask, "Why don't you have it yet?" Why don't you have this thing you want? We stay in this position of wanting something but not actually getting it because of something called 2nd Order Consequences. 2nd Order Consequences are the unknown problems that [...]

3 08, 2022

Get Unstuck with THIS Question

By Clayton Olson|2023-08-25T06:18:58+00:00August 3rd, 2022|

Did you know that there are two questions that can instantly steal your power without you even knowing it? Asking either of these questions gives your inner authority away to someone else. What are these two disempowering questions? They are: "What should I do?""What's the right thing to do in this situation?" How many times have you found yourself in a difficult circumstance and found yourself asking these on repeat. Asking either of these questions assumes that there [...]

22 07, 2022

How To Let Go, Move On, & Heal After Heartbreak

By Clayton Olson|2023-08-25T06:30:22+00:00July 22nd, 2022|

Sometimes, it's easy to get overwhelmed in our world as adult humans. There’s work, relationships, bills, pets, and kids to deal with as well as a laundry list of other demands to constantly contend with. It can be easy to forget that there are parts of our psyche still operating from a childlike perspective, and in fact, sometimes running the show. One of these parts of ourselves is the part of us that actually falls in love. [...]

15 07, 2022

The Two Questions That Steal Your Power (And What To Ask Instead)

By Clayton Olson|2022-07-15T23:36:00+00:00July 15th, 2022|

Did you know that there are two questions that can instantly steal your power without you even knowing it? Asking either of these questions gives your inner authority away to someone else. What are these two disempowering questions? They are: "What should I do?" "What's the right thing to do in this situation?" How many times have you found yourself in a difficult circumstance and found yourself asking these on repeat? Asking either of these [...]

18 04, 2022

Overachievement Is Self Abandonment

By Clayton Olson|2023-08-23T08:52:54+00:00April 18th, 2022|

Meditation teacher and writer Jon Kabat-Zinn famously said, “wherever you go, there you are” and it couldn’t be more true in the context of achievement. Our culture applauds achievement, and sure, it feels good to have accomplishments under our belt. But the dark side of achievement is something we don’t often hear about, yet it’s very real. I consider myself a recovering over-achiever. In my 20s and early 30s, I was constantly setting goals, reaching [...]

17 03, 2022

One Counter-Intuitive Sign You Are Growing IMMENSELY

By Clayton Olson|2023-08-23T08:54:36+00:00March 17th, 2022|

Have you ever felt like you were taking risks and growing in life, only to have that small, unwanted voice creep in your head to say that you’re a fraud? Imposter syndrome is not anything most people enjoy feeling. I used to have that inner critic come out with its commentary anytime I’d take big steps in life, personally or professionally (in fact, I still do from time to time!) It used to make me [...]

8 12, 2020

Why You Need to Break Free From Being a People Pleaser

By Clayton Olson|2023-08-23T09:21:23+00:00December 8th, 2020|

Have you ever been afraid to bring everything you are into a relationship just for the fear of having it massively backfire on you? And no, I’m not just talking about the good, positive aspects of who you are… But also what others might deem as negative aspects of your personality - things like your fears, worries, frustrations and sadness. The second you refrain from expressing your true self - including the negative thoughts and [...]

5 10, 2020

One Bizarre Way to Practice Loving Yourself

By Clayton Olson|2023-08-23T09:33:09+00:00October 5th, 2020|

Self-love is something so many of us struggle with. It’s a real challenge to be accepting of all parts of yourself, I know. But I want to share something that might help. It’s a groundbreaking and somewhat counter-intuitive method for learning how to love yourself, fully and completely. I’m not going to say that this is all you need in order to heal all, but I do believe that it’s a powerful starting point for [...]

11 09, 2019

One Powerful Secret to Self-Love

By Clayton Olson|2023-08-23T09:44:03+00:00September 11th, 2019|

It might be a bit outside your comfort zone to read an article on how to love yourself more. Maybe you find it too new-agey and wonder what it requires. Do I need to cue up Enya? Bust out my crystals? Take a bath? But, if you’re like most people, you might have a resistance to self-love because you think it is selfish. In reality, it’s actually the opposite. Why? Simply put, loving yourself allows [...]