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23 08, 2023

Are you Controlling Or Creating?

By Clayton Olson|2023-08-25T06:43:53+00:00August 23rd, 2023|

Are you CREATING or CONTROLLING in your life and relationships? Controlling is...Trying to prevent something bad from happening (that might be a feeling or feared outcome)Using consequence to influence rather than inspirationAction born from fearBeing outcome dependentReactiveA contracted stanceOperating from shoulds, ought to's, or have to'sCreating is...Action based on what you want, not what you don't wantInfluencing others with inspiration rather than a consequenceAction born from love, desire, and playEnjoying the processIntentional & ResponsiveAn expansive stanceOperating from "I would love..., [...]

23 01, 2023

Free Your Future From Your Past…

By Clayton Olson|2023-08-25T06:57:02+00:00January 23rd, 2023|

Do you find yourself in the same relational dysfunction again and again? Having the same type of conflict with your intimate partner, maybe your friends or in the workplace... Attracting the same type of unwanted experiences in your dating life. It can be very easy to feel like a victim of these experiences. Like life is continually dealing you a bad hand until you get the "lesson". To transcend this and create a new future reality where this [...]

13 01, 2023

Break Free From Your Self-Imposed Prison

By Clayton Olson|2023-08-23T08:03:28+00:00January 13th, 2023|

Are you feeling stuck in a relationship or career that's no longer fulfilling? It's a common experience to feel trapped and unsure how to be ourselves in these situations. We may start to see what was once exciting as stagnant and wonder what went wrong. Many people respond to this feeling by looking for an escape. They may think about leaving their relationship or quitting their job or selling their business. While these can [...]

29 11, 2022

The Wisdom Of The Valley

By Clayton Olson|2023-08-25T07:14:14+00:00November 29th, 2022|

If you look back at your life, can you see the peaks? Maybe some fulfilled desires or goals were achieved. Can you see the valleys just as clearly? The moments of cloud cover, confusion, and forced rest. If you're a high performer - somebody who's used to creating results in your life through action, discipline, and consistency - you're used to the peaks. Perhaps peak after peak is the most comfortable pace for you. There are goals to [...]

15 11, 2022

This Question Puts The Power Back In Your Lap

By Clayton Olson|2023-08-25T06:34:27+00:00November 15th, 2022|

Cycles of change...the seasons, human development, planetary shifts. When we look at these cycles with curiosity we naturally ask “how?” How do the seasons change?How do humans develop?How does the planet shift? The most empowering way we can look at ourselves and our experiences is to ask “how?” Circumstances in our lives, be they negative or positive, deserves fair inquiry. When you jump to the question of “why” you move out of fair inquiry. “Why is this happening to me?”Or “why [...]

12 10, 2022

Powerful Results Come Through Powerful Awareness

By Clayton Olson|2023-08-25T06:38:59+00:00October 12th, 2022|

Imagine something you’ve wanted for a while...Okay, now slow down and ask yourself this question:What might you lose that you value when you finally get this thing that you want? ... At first glance, you may say, "Nothing!" But then we must ask, "Why don't you have it yet?" Why don't you have this thing you want? We stay in this position of wanting something but not actually getting it because of something called 2nd Order Consequences. 2nd Order Consequences are the unknown problems that [...]

8 09, 2022

I Promise to Never Know You…

By Clayton Olson|2023-08-25T06:06:50+00:00September 8th, 2022|

I heard a quote once that was so unusual it gave me an entirely new perspective on relationships. A man said to his partner when renewing his vows... “I promise to never know you.” At first, I thought, “What? I don’t get it.” It seemed counterintuitive, like an insult to his partner that he wasn’t interested enough to get to know her inner workings. But then I thought about it and it hit me. It actually goes much deeper [...]

19 08, 2022

Stop Telling Yourself This Lie…

By Clayton Olson|2023-08-23T08:26:32+00:00August 19th, 2022|

I have found there are five words we have all likely spoken at one time or another to ourselves, usually after having experienced something painful or doing something we regret. These five words are: "I should have known better." These words may seem innocent (and accurate) enough on the surface, but really, the only purpose they serve is a way to beat yourself up. Maybe you’re going through a job loss or a breakup and you’re [...]