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23 08, 2023

Are you Controlling Or Creating?

By Clayton Olson|2023-08-25T06:43:53+00:00August 23rd, 2023|

Are you CREATING or CONTROLLING in your life and relationships? Controlling is...Trying to prevent something bad from happening (that might be a feeling or feared outcome)Using consequence to influence rather than inspirationAction born from fearBeing outcome dependentReactiveA contracted stanceOperating from shoulds, ought to's, or have to'sCreating is...Action based on what you want, not what you don't wantInfluencing others with inspiration rather than a consequenceAction born from love, desire, and playEnjoying the processIntentional & ResponsiveAn expansive stanceOperating from "I would love..., [...]

23 01, 2023

Free Your Future From Your Past…

By Clayton Olson|2023-08-25T06:57:02+00:00January 23rd, 2023|

Do you find yourself in the same relational dysfunction again and again? Having the same type of conflict with your intimate partner, maybe your friends or in the workplace... Attracting the same type of unwanted experiences in your dating life. It can be very easy to feel like a victim of these experiences. Like life is continually dealing you a bad hand until you get the "lesson". To transcend this and create a new future reality where this [...]

3 01, 2023

The Real Prize of Goal-Setting

By Clayton Olson|2023-08-25T07:01:33+00:00January 3rd, 2023|

It's that time of year again where we all set big, lofty goals for ourselves...But let's be real - how often do we actually stick to them? It's not that we don't want to, but often times, the journey towards our goals can be discouraging and filled with anxiety or pressure. I know this firsthand with my own client, who had a goal to start her own business. She was so focused on the end result - [...]

29 11, 2022

The Wisdom Of The Valley

By Clayton Olson|2023-08-25T07:14:14+00:00November 29th, 2022|

If you look back at your life, can you see the peaks? Maybe some fulfilled desires or goals were achieved. Can you see the valleys just as clearly? The moments of cloud cover, confusion, and forced rest. If you're a high performer - somebody who's used to creating results in your life through action, discipline, and consistency - you're used to the peaks. Perhaps peak after peak is the most comfortable pace for you. There are goals to [...]

17 03, 2022

One Counter-Intuitive Sign You Are Growing IMMENSELY

By Clayton Olson|2023-08-23T08:54:36+00:00March 17th, 2022|

Have you ever felt like you were taking risks and growing in life, only to have that small, unwanted voice creep in your head to say that you’re a fraud? Imposter syndrome is not anything most people enjoy feeling. I used to have that inner critic come out with its commentary anytime I’d take big steps in life, personally or professionally (in fact, I still do from time to time!) It used to make me [...]

21 06, 2021

Are You Creating “Infinite Relationships”?

By Clayton Olson|2023-08-23T09:08:12+00:00June 21st, 2021|

Over the last decade of working with clients, helping them create more empowered lives and secure connections, I have seen some themes show up on repeat. Themes that don’t serve their highest good or the relationship they seek to create. At the heart of so many struggles I’ve seen in my clients’ relationships is the idea of anxiety and insecurity, which tend to trip them up and keep them stuck in this negative loop they have a [...]

1 06, 2021

Overcoming the Fear of Failure – Breaking Down to Break Through

By Clayton Olson|2023-08-23T09:08:29+00:00June 1st, 2021|

Have you ever felt like you were rolling along, in the flow, starting to manifest your life’s vision, and then WHAM! All of a sudden life metaphorically T-boned you and all of that came to a screeching halt? Maybe you lost a job you’d been working hard at for years. You might have felt that all your hard work was for nothing, or that you were back to square one. Or maybe you had a [...]

4 02, 2021

How to Change Your Life

By Clayton Olson|2023-08-23T09:17:38+00:00February 4th, 2021|

I'm going share with you a little known but powerful psychological tool that can virtually change your entire life. This tool can change your relationships. It can change the way that you date. It can change the way that you experience happiness, the way that you bounce back from challenges, the way you perform in your career —it can change everything in your life. I bet you’ve heard the phrase, “you create your reality”. Well, [...]

20 11, 2020

The Power of Metaphor in Relationship

By Clayton Olson|2023-08-25T06:03:17+00:00November 20th, 2020|

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the power of language. You might recall some of my earlier posts where I discussed how powerful language is in creating reality. Today I’d like to continue the thread and talk about a little something called metaphor. I’m sure you’ve heard the term before, but here’s a quick definition. According to Wikipedia: “A metaphor is a figure of speech that, for rhetorical effect, directly refers to one thing by mentioning another. [...]

9 11, 2020

What is Your Hidden Question?

By Clayton Olson|2023-08-23T09:28:41+00:00November 9th, 2020|

If your current experience of life was the answer to a question, what would that question be? A bit of a strange question to get your mind around, I know. We are constantly asking ourselves questions, consciously and unconsciously, and the nature of these questions impact how we experience life. Tony Robbins said, “The quality of questions you ask yourself determine the quality of your life”. Our questions determine our way of being and how [...]

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