I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the power of language. You might recall some of my earlier posts where I discussed how powerful language is in creating reality. Today I’d like to continue the thread and talk about a little something called metaphor. I’m sure you’ve heard the term before, but here’s a quick definition. According to Wikipedia: “A metaphor is a figure of speech that, for rhetorical effect, directly refers to one thing [...]
If your current experience of life was the answer to a question, what would that question be? A bit of a strange question to get your mind around, I know. We are constantly asking ourselves questions, consciously and unconsciously, and the nature of these questions impact how we experience life. Tony Robbins said, “The quality of questions you ask yourself determine the quality of your life”. Our questions determine our way of being and how [...]
In my last blog post, “Your Words Create Your Reality - Part 1”, I spoke about a client who said, “I’m just anxious in relationships”. Through some simple inquiry and deconstruction of that statement, I illustrated how by shifting the language we use, we can create a new way of experiencing ourselves in relationship and release ourselves from our own self-created limitations. Today I’m going to introduce another way we can gain mastery over an [...]
Recently, I was working with a client who was experiencing some anxiety in a new relationship and they said, “I’m just an anxious person in a relationship.” That statement almost slipped by me. I mean, it very well could be true from their perspective, couldn’t it? However, as a coach, part of my role working with clients is to pay close attention to the language they use to create their experience. Because, oftentimes, how you [...]
Do you ever think about the downside of goal setting? I'm here to share a little secret with you that changed my life. Back when I first started out as a coach on my own after leaving the corporate world ten years ago, I was maniacally driven towards success, on a mission to build my business. I had very specific goals about how much money I wanted to make, how many clients I wanted to [...]
Self-love is something so many of us struggle with. It’s a real challenge to be accepting of all parts of yourself, I know. But I want to share something that might help. It’s a groundbreaking and somewhat counter-intuitive method for learning how to love yourself, fully and completely. I’m not going to say that this is all you need in order to heal all, but I do believe that it’s a powerful starting point for [...]
If I ask you, “how do you build a relationship that’s healthy and deeply intimate?” what would you answer? You might say that you need to do things like have romantic dinners and deep conversations, spend lots of quality time together getting to know each other’s inner workings. While those are all valid suggestions and might indeed lead to greater intimacy, I invite you to entertain the idea that it’s equally important to be missed [...]
The Art of Not Being a Hookup Imagine this scenario: You’ve been on a few dates with a dude and it’s all going well, it all feels very promising, and you are filled with hopeful anticipation. You share what you think is a pretty magical night together -- the chemistry is palpable and you are definitely vibing, and when you part ways in the morning you have no doubt it’s true when he says he’ll [...]
Ah, the wonderful world of dating. Wining, dining, and…toxicity? While it’s certainly not an item you want on the menu of your dinner for two, it happens more often than we’d like to admit. Abuse, gaslighting, manipulation – these are all obvious signs that you’re on a sinking boat; it’s time to pull anchor and abandon ship. Toxicity, in these forms, can be downright dangerous. But toxicity doesn’t always hit like a ton of [...]
So, your dating life isn’t going the way you expected. How do I know? You wouldn’t be reading this article if it was. It’s not just you: the sea is filled with tons of single fish. In fact, many people aren’t only single, but they’re also struggling with similar questions. Yep, they’re single and ready to mingle with some much-needed answers. One of the most common questions has to do with breakups, specifically why guys [...]