Recently, I was working with a client who was experiencing some anxiety in a new relationship and they said, “I’m just an anxious person in a relationship.” That statement almost slipped by me. I mean, it very well could be true from their perspective, couldn’t it? However, as a coach, part of my role working with clients is to pay close attention to the language they use to create their experience. Because, oftentimes, how you [...]
Do you ever think about the downside of goal setting? I'm here to share a little secret with you that changed my life. Back when I first started out as a coach on my own after leaving the corporate world ten years ago, I was maniacally driven towards success, on a mission to build my business. I had very specific goals about how much money I wanted to make, how many clients I wanted to [...]
Self-love is something so many of us struggle with. It’s a real challenge to be accepting of all parts of yourself, I know. But I want to share something that might help. It’s a groundbreaking and somewhat counter-intuitive method for learning how to love yourself, fully and completely. I’m not going to say that this is all you need in order to heal all, but I do believe that it’s a powerful starting point for [...]
If I ask you, “how do you build a relationship that’s healthy and deeply intimate?” what would you answer? You might say that you need to do things like have romantic dinners and deep conversations, spend lots of quality time together getting to know each other’s inner workings. While those are all valid suggestions and might indeed lead to greater intimacy, I invite you to entertain the idea that it’s equally important to be missed [...]
The Art of Not Being a Hookup Imagine this scenario: You’ve been on a few dates with a dude and it’s all going well, it all feels very promising, and you are filled with hopeful anticipation. You share what you think is a pretty magical night together -- the chemistry is palpable and you are definitely vibing, and when you part ways in the morning you have no doubt it’s true when he says he’ll [...]
Ah, the wonderful world of dating. Wining, dining, and…toxicity? While it’s certainly not an item you want on the menu of your dinner for two, it happens more often than we’d like to admit. Abuse, gaslighting, manipulation – these are all obvious signs that you’re on a sinking boat; it’s time to pull anchor and abandon ship. Toxicity, in these forms, can be downright dangerous. But toxicity doesn’t always hit like a ton of [...]
So, your dating life isn’t going the way you expected. How do I know? You wouldn’t be reading this article if it was. It’s not just you: the sea is filled with tons of single fish. In fact, many people aren’t only single, but they’re also struggling with similar questions. Yep, they’re single and ready to mingle with some much-needed answers. One of the most common questions has to do with breakups, specifically why guys [...]
It’s that time of year again, that once-in-four-years experience: the World Cup. What a wonderful time to talk about goals! Sure, the kind of goals I’m going to talk about don’t involve juking a defender and lofting a checkered, leather ball over the out-stretched arms of a goalie. But they’re just as exciting. Why? Because these goals are about YOU - your hopes, your dreams, your personal development, what you want in a relationship. The [...]
Trust is a relationship’s oxygen: it can not survive without it. But learning how to trust (or how to trust again after your world has been shattered) is often easier said than done. And sometimes this education starts with attracting the right sort of man. So, what kind of man is truly trustworthy? It often feels like a crapshoot, with many woman blindsided when the man they love (or even married) does something to destroy [...]
Whether you're completely single and have been for years… Or recently separated having gone through a gut wrenching breakup, there is something I need to bring your attention to. Many folks believe that "relationship" starts and stops with another warm body, be it your intimate partner, ex or best friend. But what if I told you that there is another critical relationship that exist forever and always in your life at this very moment? What if this hidden relationship was the FOUNDATION [...]