No offense to Gary Chapman or the important book he penned, but he might have dropped the ball by stopping at five love languages. In our adult world filled with deadlines, stress and responsibility, it's so important to find the time to play, and when you can bring this into relationship, you become irresistible. In the world of dating, it can be so easy to get wrapped up in this idea of finding the "one"—making [...]
Have you ever been afraid to bring everything you are into a relationship just for the fear of having it massively backfire on you? And no, I’m not just talking about the good, positive aspects of who you are… But also what others might deem as negative aspects of your personality - things like your fears, worries, frustrations and sadness. The second you refrain from expressing your true self - including the negative thoughts and [...]
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the power of language. You might recall some of my earlier posts where I discussed how powerful language is in creating reality. Today I’d like to continue the thread and talk about a little something called metaphor. I’m sure you’ve heard the term before, but here’s a quick definition. According to Wikipedia: “A metaphor is a figure of speech that, for rhetorical effect, directly refers to one thing [...]
If your current experience of life was the answer to a question, what would that question be? A bit of a strange question to get your mind around, I know. We are constantly asking ourselves questions, consciously and unconsciously, and the nature of these questions impact how we experience life. Tony Robbins said, “The quality of questions you ask yourself determine the quality of your life”. Our questions determine our way of being and how [...]
In my last blog post, “Your Words Create Your Reality - Part 1”, I spoke about a client who said, “I’m just anxious in relationships”. Through some simple inquiry and deconstruction of that statement, I illustrated how by shifting the language we use, we can create a new way of experiencing ourselves in relationship and release ourselves from our own self-created limitations. Today I’m going to introduce another way we can gain mastery over an [...]
Recently, I was working with a client who was experiencing some anxiety in a new relationship and they said, “I’m just an anxious person in a relationship.” That statement almost slipped by me. I mean, it very well could be true from their perspective, couldn’t it? However, as a coach, part of my role working with clients is to pay close attention to the language they use to create their experience. Because, oftentimes, how you [...]
Do you ever think about the downside of goal setting? I'm here to share a little secret with you that changed my life. Back when I first started out as a coach on my own after leaving the corporate world ten years ago, I was maniacally driven towards success, on a mission to build my business. I had very specific goals about how much money I wanted to make, how many clients I wanted to [...]
Self-love is something so many of us struggle with. It’s a real challenge to be accepting of all parts of yourself, I know. But I want to share something that might help. It’s a groundbreaking and somewhat counter-intuitive method for learning how to love yourself, fully and completely. I’m not going to say that this is all you need in order to heal all, but I do believe that it’s a powerful starting point for [...]
If I ask you, “how do you build a relationship that’s healthy and deeply intimate?” what would you answer? You might say that you need to do things like have romantic dinners and deep conversations, spend lots of quality time together getting to know each other’s inner workings. While those are all valid suggestions and might indeed lead to greater intimacy, I invite you to entertain the idea that it’s equally important to be missed [...]
When it comes to romance, it’s easy to get sucked into wondering what men want or how to be more attractive in their eyes. Women read fashion magazines, spend hours at the gym, join dating sites, solicit advice columns, and even seek therapy all in the name of discovering why they’re so unlucky in love. But the answer is simpler than you probably think. It might be more counterintuitive too. In order to [...]