If you’ve been in a relationship for a while, sometimes what you come up against is a sense of staleness or a lack of newness in the relationship. What you appreciated in the beginning about your partner you may start taking for granted.You might forget to appreciate or even see the gifts that your partner is bringing to the table as the relationship goes into the longer term. As time goes on, these blindspots may [...]
Boundaries tend to be misunderstood, but the truth is, they are a requirement for healthy connections. Why are they important? They create the structure from which you build a healthy relationship and bring your whole, authentic self into the relationship. Let’s start by outlining some evidence you might not have healthy boundaries. What this might look like is the following: Not speaking up when it’s important. Giving your time away by saying yes when you [...]
Over the last several months, my business partner and I have been working with a community of women in a program we developed called, “Becoming the One”. The sole focus of this program is to help single women adjust their perspectives—about relationships, themselves, and myths they’ve been told— so that they can come into a mindset that not just embraces where they are in life, but also opens the door to inviting love in, in [...]
It’s easy to see why dating gets a bad rap. Dating can be intimidating. It can be exhausting. It can be overwhelming if you’re unfamiliar with the latest dating app, or you’re simply not interested in “swiping right”. It might feel superficial and vacuous, or like it’s just a numbers game. Maybe you’re healing from a breakup, or you’re realizing it’s time to “get back out there”, but you have a certain level of resistance [...]
Over the last decade of working with clients, helping them create more empowered lives and secure connections, I have seen some themes show up on repeat. Themes that don’t serve their highest good or the relationship they seek to create. At the heart of so many struggles I’ve seen in my clients’ relationships is the idea of anxiety and insecurity, which tend to trip them up and keep them stuck in this negative loop they have a [...]
Have you ever felt like you were rolling along, in the flow, starting to manifest your life’s vision, and then WHAM! All of a sudden life metaphorically T-boned you and all of that came to a screeching halt? Maybe you lost a job you’d been working hard at for years. You might have felt that all your hard work was for nothing, or that you were back to square one. Or maybe you had a [...]
Have you ever noticed that the people you desire are indifferent to you, while the people you don’t care about are crazy about you? You’re not alone. It’s frustrating to feel like the person you’re crushing on couldn't care less about you, while the other one who you haven’t given the time of day is completely in love with you. This is actually a phenomenon that I’m going to help you get to the root [...]
Have you ever had the experience of just not being able to let go of someone, even though you knew they weren’t good for you? Maybe you just started dating someone, and you’re interested in seeing where it goes. Still, you’re feeling forward movement is blocked somehow—maybe the frequency of their communication is less than you’d like, or you have an emotional connection, but you’re not feeling is reciprocated. Or perhaps you’ve been in a [...]
Have you ever heard of bread-crumbing? In this blog I’m going to define this phenomena, why it might be happening, and give you a strategy to help you get your power back. What is bread-crumbing? I suspect many women have found themselves in this situation at one point or another: you meet someone who seems great, you hit if off, and maybe you go out a few times, but for some reason unbeknownst to you, [...]
Not all flaws in a relationship are created equal – some things are easier to surmount than others. In fact, there are a handful of particular flaws - the Seven Deadly Sins of a Relationship - that are especially lethal. Sin One: Jealousy The green-eyed monster is perhaps never more present than in a relationship. When you love someone, you want them to love you back and when you fear they don’t, envy rears its [...]