Yetis. Stonehenge. The Stock Market... Life is full of mysteries! Top ranking with all this wonderment: What men really want. This question has left women scratching their heads and writing furiously in their diaries for centuries. Cracking the male code is not for the faint of heart (or the woman short on ink). Does he want you to be laid back? Does he want you to be bossy? Does he want you to be funny? [...]
If you’ve been at all in the dating world, you’ve probably found yourself in a familiar situation: falling for a guy you really like and wondering why he’s not reciprocating. Is it something you said? Something you didn’t say? What is the reason men pull away? Now, there could be a million reasons (or more!). Men, like women, are all individuals with their own baggage. Is he pulling away because of a vibe [...]
I'm going share with you a little known but powerful psychological tool that can virtually change your entire life. This tool can change your relationships. It can change the way that you date. It can change the way that you experience happiness, the way that you bounce back from challenges, the way you perform in your career —it can change everything in your life. I bet you’ve heard the phrase, “you create your reality”. Well, [...]
Over the last decade I’ve spent working with clients who are suffering from a breakup or divorce, certain patterns seem to show up on repeat. What I’ve seen happen again and again is people succumbing to a common myth. Perhaps you’ve heard of it. It’s the myth of compromise. It’s the idea that every love relationship requires each partner to make compromises for the sake of the relationship. At first glance, this seems like a [...]
No offense to Gary Chapman or the important book he penned, but he might have dropped the ball by stopping at five love languages. In our adult world filled with deadlines, stress and responsibility, it's so important to find the time to play, and when you can bring this into relationship, you become irresistible. In the world of dating, it can be so easy to get wrapped up in this idea of finding the "one"—making [...]
Have you ever been afraid to bring everything you are into a relationship just for the fear of having it massively backfire on you? And no, I’m not just talking about the good, positive aspects of who you are… But also what others might deem as negative aspects of your personality - things like your fears, worries, frustrations and sadness. The second you refrain from expressing your true self - including the negative thoughts and [...]
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the power of language. You might recall some of my earlier posts where I discussed how powerful language is in creating reality. Today I’d like to continue the thread and talk about a little something called metaphor. I’m sure you’ve heard the term before, but here’s a quick definition. According to Wikipedia: “A metaphor is a figure of speech that, for rhetorical effect, directly refers to one thing [...]
If your current experience of life was the answer to a question, what would that question be? A bit of a strange question to get your mind around, I know. We are constantly asking ourselves questions, consciously and unconsciously, and the nature of these questions impact how we experience life. Tony Robbins said, “The quality of questions you ask yourself determine the quality of your life”. Our questions determine our way of being and how [...]
In my last blog post, “Your Words Create Your Reality - Part 1”, I spoke about a client who said, “I’m just anxious in relationships”. Through some simple inquiry and deconstruction of that statement, I illustrated how by shifting the language we use, we can create a new way of experiencing ourselves in relationship and release ourselves from our own self-created limitations. Today I’m going to introduce another way we can gain mastery over an [...]
Recently, I was working with a client who was experiencing some anxiety in a new relationship and they said, “I’m just an anxious person in a relationship.” That statement almost slipped by me. I mean, it very well could be true from their perspective, couldn’t it? However, as a coach, part of my role working with clients is to pay close attention to the language they use to create their experience. Because, oftentimes, how you [...]