Are You (Unknowingly) Sabotaging Your Relationships?

Has there ever been a time in your relationships where you said or did something that wasn’t in alignment with your integrity?

The words you spoke to your partner that didn’t match with what you were really feeling, or the forced smile you gave while deep inside your stomach was in knots…

If you have, then you know the pain of feeling like you're living a lie — and you’re tired of it.

You might feel like it’s hard to be yourself and let your guard down with zero inhibitions. If that’s you, then this is going to be the most important message you read today – and it will give you the tools to create that healthy, loving relationship you desire without hiding what you’re really thinking and feeling on the inside. 

So what will eventually happen when we don’t express our true thoughts and feelings in a relationship?

That’s where the concept of “intersubjective third” comes into play. 

It’s the premise that when two people enter into a relationship, a third entity is introduced…

Which is called the intersubjective third. The critical component that defines the strength or weakness of this entity is what we feed into it.

For example, if you’re manipulating, playing games and hiding your true thoughts and feelings, that’s what this third entity will become – and your partner will absorb that same energy.

On the other hand, if you act in alignment with your integrity —expressing what you’re really thinking and feeling on the inside, you’re encouraging your partner to act in the exact same way, and it will reflect into this third entity.

In short, your relationship becomes what it consumes. That’s exactly why my work revolves around helping people remain in alignment with their integrity.

If you fail to express your true thoughts, feelings and values to your partner, it’s going to be impossible to create that deep sense of connection with them — or anyone else for that matter.

So, if you’re having problems expressing your true, authentic self in your relationships…

Or you’re struggling to discover your self-worth and confidence after a devastating breakup…

Or you just want to fall in love with the right person who accepts you for who you are, with all your strengths and faults…

Then I want to help YOU. Send me an email at [email protected], fill out the application form, and let’s have a chat to see if we’re a good fit to work together. 

In the meantime, check out some of my other content on relationships. Get your copy of 8 Secrets To Create A Rock Solid Relationship guide for free by clicking this link.




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Clayton Olson

Clayton has been empowering individuals and couples from around the world to find harmony and authenticity in their relationships. With a background in Professional Coaching and Neuro Linguistic Programming, Clayton takes a holistic approach to carefully reconstructing what is truly possible for his clients. Through his work he has revitalized relationships, brought together lost loves, and witnessed clients find their soul mates. Clayton's content has been seen on Fox news magazine, Huffington post, the Goodmen project and he's even had an article featured on The View.