Are you Controlling Or Creating?


Are you CREATING or CONTROLLING in your life and relationships?


Controlling is…

  • Trying to prevent something bad from happening (that might be a feeling or feared outcome)
  • Using consequence to influence rather than inspiration
  • Action born from fear
  • Being outcome dependent
  • Reactive
  • A contracted stance
  • Operating from shoulds, ought to's, or have to's

Creating is

  • Action based on what you want, not what you don't want
  • Influencing others with inspiration rather than a consequence
  • Action born from love, desire, and play
  • Enjoying the process
  • Intentional & Responsive
  • An expansive stance
  • Operating from “I would love…, I want…, I desire to…”


You get to choose the fuel source you plug into when taking action in your life.


Who are you BEING when you date, work on your business or relate to others?


When you have that conversation with your lover, business partner, or employee, are you coming from creating or controlling?


Are you creating what you want with your words and intent, OR are you defensively birthing fear into your relationships?


The moment of pause right before that connects you to your intent is far more important than your actions.


I invite you to bring this distinction into your world today and see what occurs.

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About the Author

Clayton Olson

Clayton has been empowering individuals and couples from around the world to find harmony and authenticity in their relationships. With a background in Professional Coaching and Neuro Linguistic Programming, Clayton takes a holistic approach to carefully reconstructing what is truly possible for his clients. Through his work he has revitalized relationships, brought together lost loves, and witnessed clients find their soul mates. Clayton's content has been seen on Fox news magazine, Huffington post, the Goodmen project and he's even had an article featured on The View.